DISQUS

Grace Boyle · 3 months ago

The help that other people give you is amazingly beneficial and useful. Sometimes I wish other people could make my decisions for me (that's why we enlist help/advice from our friends and family so much). But in the end, they can only offer guidance and support. Great post, I like the avenue you took here!

Grace Boyle · 3 months ago

The help that other people give you is amazingly beneficial and useful. Sometimes I wish other people could make my decisions for me (that's why we enlist help/advice from our friends and family so much). But in the end, they can only offer guidance and support. Great post, I like the avenue you took here!

ryanstephens · 3 months ago

1.) Cake Batter Oreo sounds like a figment of your imagination.

2.) This is a great point. I've discovered two things very much along these same lines. I really appreciate people who will put me in my place. And sometimes those people aren't necessarily who you expect. I think too often are closes friends and family just want to support us and let us know we're doing good. Sometimes it takes someone you're friends with, but not TOO close to you or the situation to tell you that you're being unreasonable. They might not be 100% correct, but the important thing is that they give you a different perspective that you can take, and learn from.

Thanks for sharing James!

ryanstephens · 3 months ago

1.) Cake Batter Oreo sounds like a figment of your imagination.

2.) This is a great point. I've discovered two things very much along these same lines. I really appreciate people who will put me in my place. And sometimes those people aren't necessarily who you expect. I think too often are closes friends and family just want to support us and let us know we're doing good. Sometimes it takes someone you're friends with, but not TOO close to you or the situation to tell you that you're being unreasonable. They might not be 100% correct, but the important thing is that they give you a different perspective that you can take, and learn from.

Thanks for sharing James!

Oh, and another thing while I'm at it. Most people are reluctant to ask for help or other people's opinions, but I've also realized that most people don't mind, some are even flattered you'd ask, and those that love you would help at the drop of a hate. Just ask, nobody can go at it alone.

Susan Pogorzelski · 3 months ago

I love this post, James. Especially this: "I wanted change, I wanted a better life, and I wanted it sooner than I could have it because I was spinning my wheels so furiously that I didn’t even look down to see that I had no traction."

I feel like this is exactly where I was last year -- trying, trying, trying to go, spinning the wheels, yet still standing in place. You describe it perfectly. Sometimes it really does take others to show you your way, and sometimes it takes a little bit of self-guidance as well. I love this take on appreciation! A great post.

And I'm intrigued -- what is this Cake Batter Oreo of which you speak?

Elisa Doucette · 3 months ago

Umm...yeah...first of all cake batter oreo sounds amazing. Is that a Coldstone concoction or something?!

Secondly, I think that one of the things that we are younger professionals struggle with a lot is the idea of not only asking for helping, but also accepting opinions we don't want to hear. I mean, really, we've been brought up in a "you're a superstar, you can do anything you want, everyone gets a medal for participating in the soccer game" environment for much of our lives. So now when we hear those reality blows or the challenges on ourselves we are sometimes ill-equipped to deal with it. That's if our friends and family can even step out of their "roles" enough to push us outside of ours. Congratulations on taking the steps necessary to start to set up the life that you want for yourself!

Susan Pogorzelski · 3 months ago

I love this post, James. Especially this: "I wanted change, I wanted a better life, and I wanted it sooner than I could have it because I was spinning my wheels so furiously that I didn’t even look down to see that I had no traction."

I feel like this is exactly where I was last year -- trying, trying, trying to go, spinning the wheels, yet still standing in place. You describe it perfectly. Sometimes it really does take others to show you your way, and sometimes it takes a little bit of self-guidance as well. I love this take on appreciation! A great post.

And I'm intrigued -- what is this Cake Batter Oreo of which you speak?

sameve · 3 months ago

I too must know about this cake batter Oreo, sounds like ice cream heaven! I've learned a lot about the power of perspective, but this post is a great reminder that it's not just life experience that gives us that perspective, it's also the input and opinions of people who care about us. Sometimes it's difficult to ask for help, and it can be a real challenge to deal with the truth even when we know it's what we need to hear. Ryan has the right idea. We need to find the people who aren't too close, who will really push us and tell it like it is. Awesome post, James! So happy to have you as part of the Revolution :)

jrmoreau · 3 months ago

For all you doubters, JP Licks in Boston is the home of this cake batter oreo and it is worth whatever distance you must drive to try it!

Thanks to everyone for the comments and feedback! I totally agree that being willing to push through tough times but also be helped along at other times is what makes a period in life truly memorable and beneficial.

Elisa Doucette · 3 months ago

Umm...yeah...first of all cake batter oreo sounds amazing. Is that a Coldstone concoction or something?!

Secondly, I think that one of the things that we are younger professionals struggle with a lot is the idea of not only asking for helping, but also accepting opinions we don't want to hear. I mean, really, we've been brought up in a "you're a superstar, you can do anything you want, everyone gets a medal for participating in the soccer game" environment for much of our lives. So now when we hear those reality blows or the challenges on ourselves we are sometimes ill-equipped to deal with it. That's if our friends and family can even step out of their "roles" enough to push us outside of ours. Congratulations on taking the steps necessary to start to set up the life that you want for yourself!

sameve · 3 months ago

I too must know about this cake batter Oreo, sounds like ice cream heaven! I've learned a lot about the power of perspective, but this post is a great reminder that it's not just life experience that gives us that perspective, it's also the input and opinions of people who care about us. Sometimes it's difficult to ask for help, and it can be a real challenge to deal with the truth even when we know it's what we need to hear. Ryan has the right idea. We need to find the people who aren't too close, who will really push us and tell it like it is. Awesome post, James! So happy to have you as part of the Revolution :)

jrmoreau · 3 months ago

For all you doubters, JP Licks in Boston is the home of this cake batter oreo and it is worth whatever distance you must drive to try it!

Thanks to everyone for the comments and feedback! I totally agree that being willing to push through tough times but also be helped along at other times is what makes a period in life truly memorable and beneficial.

ICE-30BC · 2 months ago

thanks for sharing

ICE-30BC · 2 months ago

thanks for sharing